Need some advice here. A good friend of mine called me a few months ago late one evening, she was in floods of tears and said she had walked out of her house. Needed a friend. We don't live nearby but I drove about 40 mins to meet her halfway. We met up and she was an emotional wreck, she poured her heart out to me and said her marriage with DH had gone sour, he was favouring his biological child over her child from previous relationship. Said he had been looking in her phone, hiding her gym clothes as they were too revealing, making passive aggressive comments to her and generally being a lazy, nasty twat. They had argued and a fight broke out, she left and made phone call to me. She said she was unhappy and wanted to leave him but was worried about kids and money. I was supportive and gave her advice about women's aid and shelters etc. She decided to go home that night as she was worried about the kids. I said please keep in touch, come to mine if you must. I felt shitty that I didn't do more. Ever since then she's been acting as if it never happened, we speak regularly and I always ask how things are, but conscious of the fact he looks at her phone. I outright said (when I knew she was alone) "how are things with DH now? What happened after the fight? Are you and kids okay?" She said how they had spoke and he was very sorry, things had got better. Didn't say anything else about it. We were doing a group zoom during lockdown and he appeared behind her and put his hands on her shoulders, saying hi to us all. It felt really odd. What do I do? Do I keep pressing her or just accept that she's clearly not ready to leave yet? Do I just hope she will reach out to me again if it happens again? I couldn't live with myself if something bad happens and I didn't do more.
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