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Want to leave DH

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ilovebrightonmum · 26/05/2020 01:39

in short, I want to leave DH.

He has cheated and lied a year ago, promised me he will change, had a crush on my older sister , Leers at girls bodies everywhere.

I told him he has one year to show me he is a different man/person.

Last night, he rudely told me I'm not interesting at all, I'm not fun, and though he hasn't said it recently, he has in the past told me pretty much every girl or woman we know or walks by is hotter. I don't have a youthful body?Hmm


If he finds me ugly, annoying, and yells at me all day for not being fun, then why won't he agree to a amicable easy divorce?

I'm a barrister, pretty attrdcstive according to my friends and men I've been talking to before I settled down with my husband.

Should I just leave him next week?

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Aquamarine1029 · 26/05/2020 01:46

You should leave him today. I fail to see what you're waiting for.

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richele4 · 26/05/2020 01:49

^^

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ilovebrightonmum · 26/05/2020 01:57

He keeps saying this is all blown out of proportion and he won't stand for my cruel behaviour.

I told him to leave tonight and he keeps dishonestly saying I'm the one who treats him horribly.

I told him to leave. He won't.

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ilovebrightonmum · 26/05/2020 02:00

That everyone makes mistakes (even for 4 years again and again) and I won't let a single thing go?

I'm not engaging in the conversation anymore, it's exhausting.

This covid crisis has made it difficult to get a divorce or move. I'm starting to feel like I'm in a never ending nightmare.

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ilikemethewayiam · 26/05/2020 02:00

Jesus Christ! What a vile man! Leave now and don’t look back! You owe him nothing after hearing that from him. Don’t demean yourself by staying any longer. Be the one to keep your dignity and walk away now.

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Sugartitss · 26/05/2020 02:24

Focus on the end game op!

Put your blinkers on and don’t engage.

Honestly, what a bastard to cheat on you, it’s sickening.

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1forAll74 · 26/05/2020 02:43

It seems that you will have to leave him at some point,with all that is happening to you.And it seems that you will get nowhere discussing anything with this awful Husband. Just saying that,should you leave him next week,is up to you, and can you just do it, and have somewhere to go to ?

You are in some kind of nightmare.with a Husband who puts you down with his cruel words, and you do need to be free of him.

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