DH has always been hard on himself & it can cause problems in our relationship eg he will say he sometimes feels “ ganged up on” by me and/or DD & as if he can’t get anything right. I try really hard not to criticise but it works both ways that it one person thinks the other could do something better they say so ( preferably in a kind loving way). DH can dish it out but he can’t take it, although give him his due he doesn’t dish it out anywhere near as much as he used to. If we argue he often says stuff like “ I can’t get anything right” or “ I hold my hands up, it’s all my fault” even if I’ve admitted my part in it. I feel a mixture of sympathy & frustration! It can come across as manipulative. He will also say things like “ It makes me feel this big”. I don’t know whether I need to help him boost his self esteem or work on my own reactions to what could be manipulation, whether it’s conscious or not. My self esteem isn’t brilliant either & DD’s is really low too. We are having family therapy but so far we haven’t really had any pointers to help with how we feel about ourselves
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