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Tiredmum8 · 24/05/2020 19:44

Hi everyone, just need some confirmation I did the right thing cuz right now I’m feeling utter crap and heartbroken yet again!!!
So I split from my narc husband last year.
Recently set up an account on tinder, started talking to this man in mid March, obvs then all this lockdown happened so couldn’t meet.
Then I started noticing he was only messaging certain times, I asked when we first started taking if he had Facebook, he said no!
So I went snooping on Friday found he does have a Facebook account and a possible girlfriend/ seeing someone!
I messaged him and just said my sister was worried about me chatting to a man online so she went snooping, I need the truth etc he said no way I wouldn’t cheat, that it was weird snooping etc.
I replied just said it was my sister, she was worried and I won’t be messed about again. that was Friday night and we were supposed to be meeting in a park social distance Saturday morning and now I haven’t heard a thing from him since!
I just leave it don’t I? He’s obviously a liar anyway!

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Honeyroar · 24/05/2020 19:47

He’s busted and he’s trying to make you feel guilty for snooping! You’ve swerved a bullet there. Block and move on. Congratulate yourself for being on the ball and not falling for his lies.

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Tiredmum8 · 24/05/2020 19:50

Thankyou! Yh I know and I’m so glad I found out now! But just feel it’s me!
I just attract the tossers!! Must be something wrong with me! Xx

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Ohnoherewego62 · 24/05/2020 22:31

Yeah, have you ever tried to video all him? Or Skype?

Has he ever made excuses about not being in touch etc?

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Tiredmum8 · 24/05/2020 22:50

No iv never tried any of those! Some excuses yes, all pathetic ones tbh!
Left his phone at home etc xx

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Ohnoherewego62 · 24/05/2020 22:53

Have you looked since originally looking? As in have the privacy settings been changed?

I think if you're getting these feelings and possible flags so early in, is it really worth it?

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Tiredmum8 · 24/05/2020 22:56

The only way we have ever spoke is watsapp and he’s always had his last online hidden!
He hasn’t even read my message from Friday night!
And I like I say we were supposed to meet Saturday!
But Yh your def right too many flags already! Xx