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Anyone else had insomniac DH/DP and newborn baby?

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beakysmum · 19/09/2007 10:36

And how annoying is it?!??!

The whole DH/DP saying "I slept really badly last night"... yeah well, you should try being up 3 or 4 times for 45mins a time then /-:

And as for getting him to do a night feed, its just not worth it. All the "I couldn't sleep before feed, cos I was waiting for her to wake up, and I coudn't sleep after cos it had disturbed me!!!" And then him like a bear with a sore head the whole day after. Aaaagh!

Not to say I'm totally unsympathetic; with baby1 the sleeplessness of me doing ALL the night feeds led to PND and insomnia for me, so I have had some experience of how horrible insomnia is. And we are trying to ensure DH gets his sleep (he is downstairs at the mo cos apparently me even getting in and out of bed to feed disturbs him!!!), so I just feel like he should be sleeping as best as we can manage until dd is older and could he just be a little less irritating?!

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PregnantGrrrl · 19/09/2007 15:02

DH would say 'i was awake too you know'...i would respond with 'really, and you were still snoring?' or 'well fecking get up then!'

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ally90 · 19/09/2007 15:45

mmm...my dh kept telling me he's an insomniac and didn't get much sleep... as I remember it, he slept thro most of the waking... eg one morning conversation 'oh she had a good night last night!' him brightly. Me darkly 'she was up FOUR times'.

I just always remember, lack of sleep was a form of torture during the war.

Poor you and all other sleepless mothers

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pyjamagirl · 19/09/2007 15:49

Yes My Dp used to drive me mad he would get up with dc then fall asleep with the whilst feeding them

it pissed me off so much cos of course I couldn't let him do the night feeds anymore in case he squashed them

I did onec take DD off his lap and tip a glass of juice on him I was that angry

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sandyballs · 19/09/2007 15:52

It's a difficult time. I clearly remember having heated rows with DH every morning over who had had the least sleep. It became almost like a competition to see who was the most exhausted and who had the roughest deal .

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beakysmum · 19/09/2007 20:33

Good to know I'm not alone!

Does anone else's husband take sleeping tablets/ have insomnia most of the time, but you can deal with it most of the time, its just when a new baby arrives that it becomes really irritating?

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Haylstones · 19/09/2007 20:38

Absolutely. Dh ended up sleeping in the spare room for a while and used ear plugs until dd slept through. To be fair I exclusively breast fed so he couldn't have done anything during the night but it was still a pita. No.2 due in Feb and I've already told him to sleep downstatirs where he can't hear anything (even the slightest noise wakes him whereas NOTHING ever wakes me up)as it's just not worth the complaints.

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glitterchick · 20/09/2007 13:44

Funny this - my husband suffers from nocturnal deafness when we had our babies.

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oops · 20/09/2007 14:21

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beakysmum · 20/09/2007 16:41

Haylstones; that's exactly what I mean!

This is our second baby and from before she was born we agreed Dh should sleep downstairs where he has best chance of getting a good night. it feels like we are doing everything we can to support his sleep, but it's still rubbish and he still moans!!!
Whereas me, I just get on with it

It would just be one less stress for me if he shut up about it sometimes.