Just because it's something I've seen a lot on here and been through myself in the past i thought I'd just point it out here.
If you often find yourself explaining to someone WHY something obviously hurtful they have done or said IS hurtful, only to be met with comments about you being too sensitive or overreacting or perhaps, just a blank stare, as if they just dont get it: they DO get it.
They get it.
They just dont want you to know that.
They want you to put up and shut up.
You may find yourself thinking 'if only I could explain better' and trying other ways to do so. And yet you are still met with this 'i dont get it' stare. So you give up. You let it go. You think maybe it's not such a big deal afterall. Or maybe you are misunderstanding them. Or maybe, they didn't even say what you thought they said.
If this is going on in your relationship or with anyone in your life, I just wanted you to know this: your feelings are valid.
You are not going crazy. You are not overly sensitive. And it is never your job to explain to another adult why their obviously unacceptable behaviour, is unacceptable.
Normal, empathetic human beings get it. They know right from wrong. And they apologise for hurting people. Even if it was a misunderstanding.
Please, if you ever find yourself met with that blank stare, whether it be after they've called you a hurtful name or broken a promise or hurt you in any other obvious way - get yourself outa there! Dont waste another second explaining yourself to this empty, cold shell of a person. Because, they get it. Get it?
Anyway, just thought I'd say that. Hope it helps some ppl fer away from shitty, abusive jerks!
If anyone has personal examples of these ploys I'm sure they might help ppl too :)
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You should never have to explain why obviously hurtful behaviour is hurtful
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Wanderlust21 · 13/05/2020 13:36
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