Long story short, my exH met an OW (aged 29) abroad in the Philippines. Dropped the bombshell on us and left within 2 days (after 24 years of marriage). Our children were 16 and 18 at the time (they are now 20 and 22) and devastated beyond belief.
ExH got OW pregnant within three months and said it was a mistake and that she tricked him (that old chestnut!) and tried to get OW to abort baby (!). He then agreed to have baby and told my kids that he would have the snip (due to his age, 53 and the fact he did not want anymore kids...ever !). He never speaks to our children about the child, nor the other woman. It's like they don't exist.
My children (although adults now) were deeply affected by their dad having another baby and as he moved abroad, they've only seen him for three weeks each year or so. They really feel they missed out on some teenage years whereby they would have loved to have had a dad around.
A mutual friend told me today that the Ex has another baby -who is 2 or 3 months old already- (friend assumed we'd know) and of course, the exH has not told our children a single thing. Considering he's had nearly a year to tell them, I personally think it's a really shit thing to do.
Should I tell the children myself to stop them for getting a shock at some point or leave it to the ex? I feel dreadful that I now know.
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Has anyone else's older children suffered?
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user1467480231 · 11/05/2020 16:57
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