Been with DH for more than a decade, got two kids, nice house, get on reasonably well with each others families, have a good social circle......so all in all a pretty good life but after all these years I just don't really fancy him anymore :(
I'd resigned myself to this, but before the lockdown I made a real effort to get a babysitter (we'd never done this before and our oldest DC is 10!) and do out for dates. Those really helped, I didn't exactly start fancying him but it was important to go out and chat and have dinner as individuals and not as parents/housemates.
This has made me ridiculously envious of couples who are in the first stages of dating. I have a friend who has been with her BF for a year and even though I'm very happy for her, I can't help but feel jealous that I don't have the relationship she has, that newness, the falling in love phase.
Has anyone else been in this situation and how did you inject some 'passion' back into your marriage? Is it even possible to fancy someone again after feeling like this? And how do I stop turning green with envy, I hate feeling that way - social media doesn't help either with all the perfect lovey dovey couply photos people put up there.
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I don't fancy my DH any more - how can I get those feelings back?
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fancifullydone · 08/05/2020 19:36
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