A couple of years ago, I posted on mumsnet in utter despair, about an exchange & some messages between my (then!) H and I. I desperately needed some objective opinions about his behaviour, but couldn't quite cope with the embarrassment that I felt at the time of asking friends.
I won't go into the specifics as it ended up in the Mirror - I do not wish to repeat that fiasco!
A fair number of mumsnetters spotted that his behaviour went a lot deeper; that what I had posted only just scratched the surface of our relationship. They told me as much and told me to run, to get away, to start over.
So I did!
Ten years of an utterly miserable, controlling and abusive relationship.
Sometimes you really do need an anonymous, impartial collective to put things into perspective for you. Especially when you have spent so long being told that it is all your fault, being manipulated into thinking that your life is normal.
Two years later, I am a completely different person. I am happy to my absolute core. I have a loving partner, an equal relationship, (the likes of which I'm not sure I realised existed), a better job, a lovely house and obviously happier and safer children! I have freedom and love.
It was tough for a few months, but it will be worth it for the rest of my life. And the rest of my girls'.
So thank you, from the bottom of my heart, to anyone who took the time to comment, back in 2018. Who took time out of their own lives to message. Because you saved mine.
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LooptheL00p · 04/05/2020 23:24
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