I'm divorced and was on my own for 3 years before meeting someone a year ago. He's truly lovely but emotionally traumatised from previous relationships, and we just couldn't hold it together. It all came to a head a month ago and as far as I can see it's over for good.
My friends pushed me to start meeting other people after a couple of weeks. After a couple of false starts I started talking to someone who looks good on paper, other than an 8 year age gap that I'm not entirely comfortable with; I'm in my mid-40s so it shouldn't be that significant and I decided to give him a chance. We met yesterday, within the social distancing guidelines for where we live. No physical contact but we had a nice afternoon together, the conversation flowed well, and objectively it went well. I do like him.
The meeting left me so sad. I cried all the way home and all night last night because of the differences between him and my ex.
I've never been through this before. My previous relationships deteriorated over a long period and it was a relief to get out of them. This is the first time I've lost a relationship that I wasn't ready to let go of, and it's the first time I've actively tried to move on by dating someone else. Do other people go through this? Is it likely to get better if I press ahead or am I setting myself (and the new person) up for more hurt?
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Is it normal to feel sad meeting someone new?
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Gnarlibar · 04/05/2020 09:45
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