Not really sure what I am asking here, more wanting a chat on experiences.
We have had ongoing issues with DH extended family. We moved to a different part of the UK where they lived (we liked the area - it wasn't a contributing factor) But it was away from ILS (no issues there) and my family.
His family were nice on the front, I had been warned about them previously however always judge people for my own. Unfortunately it quickly became apparent how manipulative and toxic they were.
It started with unwanted opinions on EVERYTHING, then getting arsey when you don't change your plan to meet their opinion. Could be as small as we would be going to a restaurant , and they would say no don't go there , go here (although they have never been) and they'd push and push. I quickly learnt to go along with things but somethings were harder then others like telling DH I didn't need my own car and going on about it!!
Next it was forcing unwanted gifts and favours , example, came round our house one day with an old rug we don't want. Did not even match our decor. Tell them No honest we're fine. Lays down rug and leaves it. Won't take it back .Then goes on about how nice they were giving you the rug?! (Lack of willpower here maybe from me but it's awkward)
Then it became comments on my appearance, my weight, my dress sense, our relationship, my parenting style with our children , how I kept the house (spotless by the way) so all mainly digs at me.. as though not good enough...
And finally, lies. Complete fabrications of events . Playing victim.
We finally had enough and have removed ourselves with abit of drama . Hoping it's the end of it but still feel pretty anxious about 'what's next' and also guilty on DH . I looked back to think have I overreacted in anyway but truly believe I let more than enough slide for long enough over the past 4 years.
What's everyone's experiences with toxic and manipulative people?
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How did you feel removing manipulative people from your life?
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Redracing · 30/04/2020 21:01
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