I guess being in lockdown has given me a lot of time to think and have older memories resurface when in normal life I keep myself busy to not remember.
This is the first time I’ve ever spoken/written about this.
In a nutshell my DF was/is an violent alcoholic and was vile to my DM. Understandably DM was spaced out trying to cope, but she also took it out on me in terms of neglect: lots of times the only meal I ate was at school, I didn’t have a lot of appropriate clothes and she would put me down a lot. Criticise me to my face and to others. Make fun of me to my friends when I was a teen, slag me off to other family members.
Would tell me how thick and ugly I was. I had an ugly smile.
When I started my periods I didn’t tell her, I was afraid for some reason, and I missed the chat at school so didn’t really know what was going on. I just wrapped tissues up in my knickers. I didn’t that for 2 years. I didn’t understand how she didn’t notice?
I saw what my DF was like, smashing the house up, screaming at Dm.
I’d listen for the sound of the front door slamming when he’d come home to know how bad the mood would be.
I have a pretty shit relationship with them now. They don’t know much about me. They don’t care to be honest, as long as listen to their endless shit and endless dramas about gossip or who they’ve fallen out with now.
I’m so alone. It feels so shameful and humiliating to not be close to my parents. Everyone I know has a great relationship with their parents. I can’t tell anyone in RL.
Not sure what I’m hoping by this thread but I think I need therapy.
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Ladywinesalot · 26/04/2020 19:01
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