Need to let go but worried about future

[groovybaby12]

I need to leave a relationship. It’s been 7 months and I’ve fallen out of love and the honeymoon phase is gone. There is no sex because he is on meds. He makes me feel like crap. I’ve been open about what I need in a relationship and it’s clear he can’t provide it. I’ve been patient and compromised big time.

Usually I have no problem leaving a bad relationship.

But this time I’m 35, turning 36 end of the year. I feel like my time is running out to find a life partner and kids. I wonder if I should just put up with him for kids and an easy life if I can just ignore him and not rely on him for emotional support.

Dating is a minefield and I can’t seem to want to face it again. I can’t go it alone with kids so that’s not an option either.

Just need a hand hold and kick up the bum please.

[Iusedtobeapartygirl]

There is nothing so lonely as being in a bad relationship.

And I met my DH when I was 37, I had decided that it was never going to happen and that I would be fine on my own and then along he came!

You know what you need to do, and you will be fine.

Good luck.

[Holshicup]

But surely if there is no sex, kids aren't an option anyway?
You know what to do here I think.
Good luck

[Shineonyou]

It could be another year or so until we are fully done with Coronavirus and I can start to get out and date. So 37 going on 38. I’m panicking that my time is nearly done.

[category12]

Why couldn't you go it alone with kids?

[SandyY2K]

What's in it for a child brought into this kind of relationship?

[soannya]

Oh god. Don’t settle! If you’re going to settle at least settle for somebody who might not be emotionally supportive but is hot in the sack, surely! You have to be getting at least something out of it. Just dump him. Right now nobody’s out and about so you can vegetate and get over it and by the time we can all go out again you’ll be ready to mingle. In the meantime do online therapy, yoga, get yourself well and fit?

[welshladywhois40]

I was 36 and a half when I left my husband. We were trying for a family but our relationship was suffering under the strains of his alcohol problem. I used to think just stay a few months and get pregnant and all will be fine. I wasted a couple of years doing that.

So I left, had a few months to get my head back together (break up messy) and 6 months later was dating.

I feel very lucky I met some one who had the goals as me - family and a partnership.

It's nearly 4 years since I met this wonderful man and my toddler is nearly 2. I am thankful every day for meeting him and one thing is for sure I wouldn't have this life with my exh.

It this isn't working and he doesn't have you goals go now before you waste any more time.

[BackseatCookers]

But this time I’m 35, turning 36 end of the year. I feel like my time is running out to find a life partner and kids. I wonder if I should just put up with him for kids and an easy life if I can just ignore him and not rely on him for emotional support.

You'd be naive, foolish and to be honest selfish to bring a child into this relationship knowing you can't rely on their father to provide emotional support and equal parenting effort.

It wouldn't be an "easy life" it would be a lonely and resentful one.

Leave him and be single for a while, you don't need to jump into dating and it's unhealthy to do so fresh out of a relationship.

You can do it!

[kimlo]

It's been 7 months, you can't have fallen in and out of love in 7 months.

You get nithing out of this relationship. Don't settle for that.