DH and I have been having a tough time since DS2 was born 6 months ago. In brief, we've had a few big conversations about his lack of care and attention for me during this time (quite a few health problems), and I've also taken on board his problems with my (I accept) sulky then explosive attitude, not being upfront about what is required etc. We even read "babyproof your marriage" which was helpful in getting to grips with the problem. I accept entirely and have been trying to act on the principle that it is a partnership we both have to give time care etc and be generous in all things, and have sincerely been making an effort to be extra thoughtful and generous with words and actions. but we are still having big barneys and I'm not sure if it is doing much good.
wondered if anyone else had experience of this. all the books (was looking at Netmums "how to be a happy mum" in a shop today, speed-read the chapter on relationships) seem to promote this "you can only change your own behaviour, model the behaviour you would like to see" idea....
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"positive example" instead of whining/keeping score - does it work?
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time4tea · 03/09/2007 21:51
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