First ever post in relationships. Don’t know where to start really.
My DH is by Mumsnet terms an angel. He’s a massively hands on Dad, does more childcare than me (both work FT, he works shifts). I’m by nature very lazy and he lets me get away with it (to an extent). He does all the cleaning, food shopping & cooking when he’s home.
I think a large part of our relationship issues are caused by not spending any quality time together. We have been out on our own in the evening just once in the past 2 years, we’ve sort of lost touch with the couple we were pre DC I think.
I spend a LOT of evenings on my own, probably 5/7. Three weekends out of four I’m solo parenting. Pre DC this sort of worked as I’d use that time to socialise with friends, now I can’t leave the house as easily, we both tend to make our social plans when the other is home to babysit. Consequently we see even less of each other and less of our friends although TBH he doesn’t have many.
I really enjoy going to work (although my current job isn’t that great) mainly for the social side of it, and if I’m honest male attention. It’s kind of reminded me I’ve still ‘got it’. We never have sex, he suffers from premature ejaculation which wasn’t an issue when we had more time for foreplay but now it’s so few and far between it’s over in seconds and really I get nothing out of it.
He wants another baby. I always wanted 2 children but now the combination of kind of getting my life back and not being that happy with him has put me off, I think it would make things worse.
We had sex last night and I’m ovulating. I panicked today and went and got emergency contraception which I can’t tell him about- he wouldn’t understand. He thinks we’re trying for a baby. I had 3 early miscarriages last year which I think is also impacting on my broodiness or lack of it. And I really like wine. I think I’ve become too selfish and we’ve forgotten how to be a couple. HELP.
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Morning After Pill when DH thinks we're 'Trying'
benderinabun · 16/08/2019 18:45
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