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my mate is peeing me off, he goes on & on about "if my mum hadnt had a miscarriage before i was born then i wouldnt exist"..

(22 Posts)
allgonebellyup Mon 30-Jul-07 13:07:17

miscarriages happen to loads of people.
he goes on and on and on about "my mum miscarried before she had me, so she tried again and i was born".

"if she hadnt tried again then i wouldnt exist".

get over it!! my mum also had 2 miscarriages before i was born but i never think about it!
so many people have miscarriages, its hardly a need for therapy that your mum had one before you're born, is it??
he honestly has therapy over it and expects SO much sympathy.

GroaningGameGirly Mon 30-Jul-07 13:08:33

Blimey. He definitely has ishyoos.

JeremyVile Mon 30-Jul-07 13:08:52

Attention seeker.

Tortington Mon 30-Jul-07 13:09:15

what a cockhead

Tortington Mon 30-Jul-07 13:09:34

kick him in the balls and say " NOW you have problems"

beansprout Mon 30-Jul-07 13:09:38

He needs sympathy for this?!!!

HedTwig Mon 30-Jul-07 13:10:19

sorry I find that totally inappropriate .. its something that happened before his birth and the grief belongs to his parents

unless of course they spent his childhood telling him he wouldn't have existed if they hadn't had a miscarriage

I do think I'd probably want to slap him if he expected sympathy though

my parents had a miscarriage between my sister and I, I wouldn't exist if they hadn't wanted a son .. tell him to get a feckin' grip

sazzybee Mon 30-Jul-07 13:11:06

How pathetic. Tell him to get a grip

ELF1981 Mon 30-Jul-07 13:11:17

I often joke "if my mum hadn't been prescribed that course of antibiotics then I wouldn't be here" and my sister "if that condom hasn't have split, I wouldn't be here"

ELF1981 Mon 30-Jul-07 13:12:32

Come to think of it, my mum had a miscarraige between my sister and me, so I must be a MIRACLE baby!

ladylush Mon 30-Jul-07 13:12:45

How weird

ladylush Mon 30-Jul-07 13:13:14

that was about the op

allgonebellyup Mon 30-Jul-07 13:14:45

i know its pathetic, he talks about if as if its the worst thing to happen to anyone.

He does have a perfect life otherwise, and perfect family, and has never suffered the loss of someone close/tragedy in his life.

i point out to him that my dad died when i was 11, my bro in law jumped infront of a train and killed himself, ive had 2 abortions, 2 marriages breakdown and am now raising 2 kids alone.also watched my sisters suffer years of abuse from my dad. my mum is also getting very ill and keeps telling us she doesnt mind if she dies soon.

i wish he would SHUT the hell UP!!

ladylush Mon 30-Jul-07 13:21:33

Oh dear, in your shoes I would be mighty pissed off too

HedTwig Mon 30-Jul-07 13:22:05

have you tried telling him to 'shut the hell up' though

sometimes a quick shock might help

I remember going through a phase of complaining about my father when I was new at uni till a friend turned round and said "you know if you keep that up xxx <another mutual friend> will probably deck you" .. xxx had lost his father before i met him and I just didn't know

I don't think I complained again

Peachy Mon 30-Jul-07 13:31:26

Mum lost 5 abbies late on before me, I definitely wouldn't have existed. neioher would I be here to care about it, so where's the problem?

However I do wonder what ahs been said to him- a friend ats chool was told by her Mum that she would have been aborted had they not been too late for tha procedure, really screwed her up for years sadly.

barring that seriosuly needs to get over it!

beansprout Mon 30-Jul-07 13:32:59

He clearly isn't someone who has had to deal with very much in his life.

I would just tell him that he is lucky that this is the "worst" thing he has to deal with!!

quint Mon 30-Jul-07 13:35:21

I agree you need to tell him to shut the fuck up. Explain that she did miscarry, he is here, get on with it and stop acting like a prickn - harsh but fair

charliecat Mon 30-Jul-07 13:37:45

My mum was on the way to get rid of me when she crashed the car and so it didnt happen.
She also said if I was a boy she would have left me in the hospital. Im intelligent enough to know that even though I know those 2 things she had me, looked after me and loved me.

Iklboo Mon 30-Jul-07 13:37:49

Tell him if sh!t was rice pudding he wouldn't go hungry!

Or "it's a shame she f*cking DID try again!"

cornsilk Mon 30-Jul-07 13:40:43

I have never heard anything like it allgonebellyup! I would think he needed to get over it except there's really nothing to get over. Very wierd.

Scampynoodle Mon 30-Jul-07 14:18:02

He sounds pretty determined to be a victim if you ask me, the kind of guy who doesn't want an answer or to solve his 'problem' because then he'd have nothing to fill his time. It also sounds as if he doesn't have enough going on in his life. Fresh air, interests...he needs something.

Tell him that you don't mind being mates but that mates give and take, that he is exhausting you with all this talk and if he carries on you won't be able to support him any more, simply because you aren't capable of carrying the weight of it. Shit happens but we pick ourselves up and get on with life.

God knows, if the most I had to fret about was my mother's miscarriage prior to my appearance I'd consider myself bloody well blessed!


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