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When did you meet your DP after your children's father?

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windowshine Thu 13-Jun-19 01:15:53

I'm just curious.
It's not at the forefront of my mind but I do often think that maybe one day I'd like to meet someone and it got me wondering when/how you met your DP after not being with DC's dad?

How old were DC? How long had you been single? Did DC adapt well? Etc

I'm just being nosy really!!

username1724 Thu 13-Jun-19 04:48:57

Split with dds dad whilst pregnant (age 17) had a few flings, nothing serious, met current partner at 24. I'd been dating, looking for someone to settle down with essentially but was having no luck. then he joined my team at work, got closer, asked me out, and now we have a son together. It's not been without its problems but we've really come through the teething pains now. He is more like dds friend for now. He parents when he thinks he needs to or when I'm not there. Shes generally very good but she has a good relationship with her dad so doesnt necessarily need another. Dd and I are very close after so much time just the 2 of us which I love and I'm so pleased that's lasted through all the change. One thing dating did do for me though was to teach me a lot about myself. What I wanted or needed from a partner, it was very much an invaluable learning curve and real confidence booster despite nothing working out.

Mintypea5 Thu 13-Jun-19 05:27:07

Split when DS was one met DH when he was 4 (he's now 7.5)

Pinkmouse6 Thu 13-Jun-19 13:57:48

I split with my DC’s dad when they were 2, 3 and 4. Met my DP a year later. I didn’t date at all for that year, just focused completely on my DC, career and myself. Went on a couple of dodgy dates then luckily met DP.

We’ve been together for almost five years, own a home and have a 7 month old together.

aboutbloodytime123 Thu 13-Jun-19 16:41:41

Complicated timeline for me.

Ex moved out when DC were 5 & 3 but we had been living separately for about a year before that and had never really recovered from previous crap which I had found out about when pregnant with DC2.

Met DP 9 months later. He met the DC just once after 3 months very briefly and then after 10 months as a friend. We have now been together for 2 years!

He is very much part of our lives and the kids think he's fab (this has taken some work as he has no DC himself so was utterly unprepared for them!) He doesn't live with us. That may change next year.

TalithaWallis Thu 13-Jun-19 17:17:51

Split when DS was 10 months. Dated a friend 3 months later for about 3 months. Met DH when DS was 20months. Been together 12 years and have three further children together.

KrakenUp Thu 13-Jun-19 17:27:53

Split with DH when DC1 was 6 months old. Had a couple of flings. Met DH at work when DC1 was 5. Moved in together when DC1 was 7. DC1 is 17 now and DH and I have gone onto have two more kids.

KrakenUp Thu 13-Jun-19 17:28:50

DH should read ex-DH. grin

Faster Thu 13-Jun-19 17:29:47

I was with DP before ExDP. Clean break and no overlapping between them. We got back together when DS was 1. All good in the hood.

Qsandmore Thu 13-Jun-19 17:31:09

Watching with interest as I’m 3 years in, bad experience of dating last year and with zero time as DCs dad is fairly absent I think I’m destined to be alone!

BigRedLondonBus Thu 13-Jun-19 18:39:29

It’s been 2 years since me and ex split and I’ve not had a date or met anyone at all yet. My children are with me 24/7 so pretty much impossible

namechangedforthis1980 Thu 13-Jun-19 18:50:26

Split from DS1's Dad when he was 4 months old. Met DH when DS was just turned 2.

The first 6 months or so were a bit difficult. DH struggled a bit with the idea that I couldn't drop everything and go out with him ( I had a young child after all!) so we split briefly. We then got back together and DS and I moved in with DH a year later.

We've now been married 11 years. Things have been pretty good, Ex actually really respects DH for all he's done for DS as he knows he couldn't have offered him as much as he's got, which I think is lovely

BertieBotts Thu 13-Jun-19 19:02:47

Split when DS1 was 1. Got together with now-DH when DS1 was 2.

I did have a FWB thing briefly before that. Both FWB and now-DH were people I had known from before the relationship with DS1's dad.

DS1 has always loved and been loved by DH and it was a bit silly because I let them meet far too soon, but it was a gamble which paid off. DH moved in a year after we started dating and it was too soon. After about 9 months he took a job far enough away that he moved out for a year, which probably saved us although we did almost split up as well. We remained together but long distance and then lived together again when DS1 and I moved to be with him. Married when we'd been together 3 years. Had DS2 last year when we'd been together nearly 8 years.

BitchQueen90 Thu 13-Jun-19 20:01:30

I'm 5 years post divorce and not met anyone yet. I have had a FWB situation which I have recently ended.

To be fair I'm not actively looking as I tend to end up in toxic relationships so I'm better off single for now.

Augustlou30 Thu 13-Jun-19 22:10:37

I met my current partner only 3 months after I 'officially' split from DH. We'd actually been very on and off, mostly cause I needed counselling to finally leave. I met my current man online, he was initially just a distraction, someone to try and help me recover from a difficult and complicated marriage. However, we fell for each other and finally admitted it after 9 months. It took a further 6 months to introduce him to kids, a further year before I let him spend more time with us as a family. Now at 3 years together I let him look after my children, pick them up from school etc. We don't live together yet but it may happen next year. I've taken it very very slowly. Although my kids dad has 50% access so I do get time. My ex husband has also met a new partner and I like her alot and the kids are getting to know her. We all chose to look forwards, not backwards.

funnylittlefloozie Thu 13-Jun-19 22:58:32

I met the current Mr Floozie almost exactly three years after my exH moved out. We'd been married 18 years, and the only good thing i have to show for those years is our DD.

Current man and i have been together 11 months, we are ridiculously happy!

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