I want to leave my dh. We've had a very.. tempestous relationship, we have major arguments and huge fights. After the birth of dc1 I decided I'd had enough, but I wanted dc2 so... I stayed. Now, after dc2, I know I have to leave. He's a great dad, but I don't love him. We fight constantly, so much so strangers have asked why we're together, and I'm tired of the fighting. We went to relate, after the birth of dc1, it didn't help.
He tells me frequently mid fight that I have to change. I know I can't change to what he'd like me to be.
I'm in a dilemma, I'm working full time over the summer as a childminder. We've just bought our first house together too. Practicality wise, I don't know what to do. I've talked briefly to the council who say I won't be eligible for a council house as I'll be leaving him, he won't throw me out as he'll want me to stay. I haven't got much money, well none that's my own, and we don't have much between us.
How do people do this??? If I move out, where does that leave our mortgage, we haven't paid anything off really but he won't be able to afford to make repayments on his own, without my contribution. I won't be able to pay rent anywhere else if I'm contributing to the mortgage.
Even if I did get a council place, I doubt they'd guarantee somewhere I could work from, I'd be letting down all the children and famililes I look after. Part of me thinks I should spend at least the summer saving up what I can so we have some cash when I leave, but I'm struggling staying and not telling him.
Where does it leave my children too? What are his rights as a father? Would he get to keep them?
I have no idea how I will tell his family I don't have any family, they're all I have and they're going to be so disappointed
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wheretostart · 23/07/2007 19:38
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