Have to get this off my chest otherwise i will go and thump him.
Husband was ill last weekend (man flu) so I watched the kids exclusively, did all chores etc. He then went away on business on Mon - Thurs. So again, I've done everything with kids/house - oh and I run my own business. No complaints. He wasn't here.
Today he worked from home. Kids woke up at 5.30am and I got up assuming he was tired from trip. he got up too and said he wanted to spend some time with kids. Fab I thought. i went back to bed.
I woke up ten minutes before the kids were due to go to nursery and figured, oh well, he'll take them. But no. i had to rush to get out the house and take them. We both work at home all day. time to pick boys up. I go to fetch them saying: you could come too. I'm busy he says.
Hmm, let's see. It's month end and have to do all my invoicing and reporting. I only get to work 3 days a week as the rest of the time I am looking after our children and running our house even though I need 5 days to do all my work and so I end up working evenings while he watches TV.
Anyway, I go fetch boys. They of course are thrilled to see daddy, except he's still working. Why can't he just stop for an hour before they go to sleep and resume thereafter. Like I'm going to have to. But no, I entertain children etc.
He finally finishes, then stands up and says: Well I'm going to go pack away the outdoor furniture (got some new stuff that arrived today). So I said: well can't you do that after they've gone to bed and spend some time with them.
So begrudgingly he comes and plays with them. I say: given I still have heaps of work to do, can I go do a bit now while you play with them? And he rolls his eyes as though saying: typical, now I have to look after them.
So I lose it and say that I think it's unfair that if we're both working at home, that he can share the fetching/carrying/looking after of children. To which he says: well I got up with them this morning. Just a reminder that he's been away/supposedly sick for the last week and I've had to do all night wakings, early mornings, visits to doctors, fetching, cooking etc.
I love my boys and happily spend time with them - but this attitude that they are solely my responsibility and that he can just drop in when he fancies seriously pisses me off. I would understand if I didn't have to work but I do.
Sorry. Rant over. I just want to punch him and I know that we're now going to have a lovely evening of either stony silence or big fat fight. Goody Which to choose from.
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JoshandJamie · 29/06/2007 18:32
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