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Man Flu and the like

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SmellyBoots Thu 28-Jun-07 15:31:57

I know alot of men suffer from man flu but DP is really getting on my nerves with it and its making me feel like I don't find him attractive anymore.

It's everytime he gets slightly 'ill' he goes really OTT, at the moment its hayfever, everyone in this house has hayfever, I bought some 1-a-day tablets for it and that does me and the kids fine. DP on the other hand went to boots and spent £20+ on hayfever remedies for himself, he can't just have the tablets, he has to have the most expensive tablets, the nose spray, the eye name it and he leaves it all out in a mess on the bathroom window ledge. A few weeks ago we went on a night out and half way down the road (main 'pub crawl' road) he decides his hayfever is so bad that he needs to go right back to the top of the road again where the tesco garage was and buy some hayfever tables in the middle of a night out ffs and he expected the group we were with to go with him. (which they refused to do).

About a month ago he had a slight cold, he called it flu and curled up on the sofa with a face ache, tissue stuffed up his nose feet up (with trainers on) taking up the entire sofa groaning and whining everytime someone wanted to sit down.

He's getting on my nerves, its so unmanly and so unattractive. I've told him he acts a bit pathetic when he's "ill" and he says "I cant help being ill" but with this hayfever lark its really starting to make me question how I feel about him.

Am I being irrational? should I talk to him about it or is it all a bit too petty?

scorpio1 Thu 28-Jun-07 15:55:52

it drives me mad when dp is ill.......

i think when he is better you will be fine! its just so irritating.

is there other things beside the illnesses why you would want to leave?

lulabelle Thu 28-Jun-07 16:56:03

smellyboots, this is my DH!! He only has to sneeze and before he has finished his sneeze he is screaming 'hayfever', like your dp my 2 DS's get it and they are fine with their meds, but DH has beconase, piriton, eye drops and nasal drops, it can't all be good for him but he keeps Boots in business! What drives me mad is the routine he has to go through before we go anywhere to get it all in! Mowing the grass is a complete trauma! Don't get me wrong its not that I'm unsympathetic it must be awful for him but a friend of mine gets is BAD and she doesn't create half as much as him!

lulabelle Thu 28-Jun-07 16:57:57

meant to say, it doesn't make me want to leave him but does drive me mad!

Quattrocento Thu 28-Jun-07 16:58:22

A good rule for illness (or it works in our household) is either you are ill - in which case you can go to bed, and receive sympathy.

Or you are well, in which case you SHUT UP and don't whinge or inconvenience other people.

mosschops30 Thu 28-Jun-07 16:58:44

ive heard man-flu is worse than bird-flu .

Whip a needle and syringe out, that always gets men moving, needle-phobic bunch of wimps

JoshandJamie Thu 28-Jun-07 17:31:34

I posted on this exact subject about a week ago. I have no idea why I find it so annoying when my DH gets sick - probably because:

a) half the time he isn't really sick, just trying to get out of watching the kids

b) when I'm sick I have no choice but to soldier on. And apparently, because I'm able to soldier on, I'm not as sick

All I can say is thank god woman have the babies or the human race would have died out a long time ago.

Pan Thu 28-Jun-07 18:09:29

you just don't understand.

obimomkanobi Thu 28-Jun-07 19:08:18

It winds me up no end too. Since having children I have NEVER taken to my bed or the sofa with an 'illness'. Colds, chest infections, the shits, childbirth, wisdom tooth removal...I have soldiered on. When my DH gets a sniffle/headache/sore throat/sore back etc it's a 5 act drama involving him staggering around in his dressing gown and coughing/sniffing/groaning theatrically.

Pan Thu 28-Jun-07 20:20:44

Well, it's abit like being a highly-trained athlete...there is a very close connection between perfectly tuned and at optimal performance perparation, and being ill...a very fine when illness strikes, it strikes very heavily, comparatively. See??

JoshandJamie Thu 28-Jun-07 20:26:01

Pan - even with a very generous stretch of the imagination, my DH is nowhere close to being a finely tuned tri-athlete (even if that's what he might imagine he is).

Apologies for being literal. Nice try on the analogy, but my answer to man-flu is still the same: tough.

Pan Thu 28-Jun-07 20:27:32

. I tried.

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