I think new bf’s ex was MtF trans. How would you feel?

bollocksthemess · 2018-12-14 08:43:52

Name changed because this is too weird. I was on my own in my boyfriend’s house last night to let a workman in while he was working. Despite him being single for two years there is still quite a bit of his ex’s stuff hanging round the house that he hasn’t got rid of, just stuff like old suitcases, hair products in random cupboards etc. I was having a poke about out of curiosity and nosiness. I found her old expired passport in a box of tat. It’s definitely hers, I know her name etc. She’s Filipino and it was a Philippines passport. I looked in it, and it’s got her female name as a middle name, and Rhyan (spelled like that) as a first name. Then where it says sex there’s an M. I keep searching for a different explanation but there isn’t one is there? I don’t know what to think. He’s the least likely person to be with a trans person, think football, lads nights out, beer, works in a male dominated industry. I wonder if he didn’t know? They lived together, they were together 4 years, how could you not know? I feel a bit weird to be honest. Then I feel bad for feeling weird, it’s up to him who he’s in a relationship with. He’s lovely, we get on so well, the sex is great, I just can’t get my head around this. It’s my own fault for snooping, but it can’t be explained into anything else can it? Fucks sake, I don’t know how to feel about this.

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