Right, I'm 46 and I've been single this time for a year now. I've been OLD with no success really.
I've got to the point where, whilst I'd like someone, I just can't be arsed with the whole matching and swiping and first date guff. It takes a lot of effort, and I feel like Cilla Black is in my ear saying 'well Hello there contestant number 78, what's your name and where do you come from?'
I don't seem to fancy anyone, and no one seems to fancy me.
I'm not sporty or religious, so no chance of meeting anyone at 'clubs' or the like, I work in a tiny office, my hobbies are very female centric, the kids do solo style hobbies etc etc. The chances of bumping into my soul mate (bleurgh!) are pretty darn slim.
Can I give myself permission to Just. Stop. Looking.??
And would anyone else like to join me on the Stopping Dating thread?...
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Skyrabbit · 09/12/2018 14:02
FWB not for everyone. I couldn't have a sexual relationship with someone I wasn't personally interested in and a little excited by IYKWIM.
I found that all my married friends didn't believe me when I said I was happy on my own & their sympathetic "there's someone out there just waiting" etc got on my nerves
If you want to do dating, you still could I s'ppse, but be VERY choosy before you meet on a personal level. I find it very hard to read people from online profiles and chat - I tried to give people a "chance" but it didn't work 
.... I just met up with some awful and dubious characters.
Hi Daffo , you fed up with it all as well? Come and join me!
ballyhoo I think I'm similar, OLD just doesn't work for me. I like things like Radio 4 and knitting, and the amount of pisstaking that I get on OLD is unbelievable "hur hur, it'd be like dating my granny". I usually stop short of telling that their interests of "drinking, going out and staying in, and drinking" make me think that they'd be like dating Tommy Robinson :D
jocktamsonsbairn yes, I'm happy to be single, but I miss having someone to tell about my day, or to go to a gig with, or cuddle up to in a cold bed etc. I haven't got the time to go find anyone though either right now, and i certainly can't be arsed to have repeated desultory first dates that are never going to go anywhere.
I'm planning ahead though, and when the kids leave for Uni (which is in sight now!!!) , I'm planning to move to a flat in the nearest city, so there's plenty of stuff for a single woman to do.
God, I sound really sad 
I'll join you! I am a couple of years older than you and feel the same about OLD. I like doing crafts and sewing, jigsaws etc and men never give a positive response to that! I just get "oh, ok" but I don't want to change who I am to get a man. In fact I'd rather be doing those hobbies than going on pointless dates! I prefer to do my hobbies in the evening, or watch shows I want to watch. Rather than sitting there watching crap TV, just for the sake of having a mans arm around me (I spent too long doing that!). I've done the same as you now and given myself "permission" to be single. I do get what you're saying when you say that. Society thinks single=lonely. For some it does, but I am definitely not lonely. I don't want a FWB because, in all honesty, in my life I have only ever dated one man who I would say was "good" at sex! The rest were too much work for too little pleasure 
So I'd rather not bother. I work, I support myself comfortably, I have plenty to do in my free time. So yes I have definitely stopped looking. I don't hate men. Maybe if the right one came along (unlikely) I'd give him a chance, but I am making zero effort trying to find him!
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