Taken ex back (please don't judge ) nothing's changed

[somanyideas]

So, as the title said

Anyone done this with a positive outcome?

Together 3 years. I ended it in January as I couldn't bear his moods. It sounds trivial I guess but it was bad enough to leave
We split for a few months and he begged me back
I blocked what's app and text and he still found a way mainly by email but I would then cave
Anyway I took him back in the summer and we've tried again

But his moods are there...so bad it's made me feel exactly the same as I did before ?!

Feeling very silly

Upset and need someone to talk to x

[mooncuplanding]

You gave it a go. You can end it with no regrets or wonder now

[ILoveAutum]

Imagine how you’ll feel in 10 years time if you don’t leave now!

[somanyideas]

It's so hard as I had hope
Not sure why I feel so bad ending something that should be ended though?!
Silly because I love him and I genuinely thought he had changed
But is it normal to be sooooo god damn moody all the time?!

[theworldistoosmall]

No it's not normal. I had one of these mood hoovers. They drag you down to their shitty existence. I didn't realise for years that he was making me so miserable. Then one day I woke up and saw the light and started thinking if I wanted to spend the rest of my life with a dark cloud hanging over my head. As I said, I did have.

I did love him. We were together for a long time. We had a child together.

Don't waste your time on him. You will find someone that makes you feel good about yourself instead of dragging you down to a miserable existence.

[somanyideas]

Thank you for your nice words.
Just need to hear it. My friends hate him so can't even turn to them. I know that should have been an indicator
I just did love him and when someone's begging you and saying they will change, how easy it is to believe....
I feel sad but I know it's because I gave my everything and deep down I know I deserve better

Just kept thinking is this how I want my life to be ? No...no i don't is the answer x

[JudasPrudy]

Just get rid ASAP. If he's miserable with you he will be a miserable wanker with your kids.

[theworldistoosmall]

At least he didn't go through the fake change only to revert. He's saved you a lot of time.
Dump him. Block his calls. And block his email.
Yes, you will be sad for a few days/weeks. But it's better than a lifetime of misery.

[somanyideas]

I did I asked him to leave tonight.....the last few weeks have been awful actually and I've tried talking to him but he doesn't see it at that he says I'm always ' poking ' him.....I've told him I've had enough but he never listens until he realises I'm serious then he seems to want to ' change '
Just feel like an idiot for believing his shit - again - but I guess it's best to find out now when there aren't any ties
I have my own place luckily so least it can be a clean split
Just shit timing for me as have booked quite a few things when we got back together

[Aquamarine1029]

He will never change. You know this for sure now. Kick him out and don't look back.

[Monty27]

Some people aren't happy unless they're miserable.
He's not making you happy so on your own behalf be brave.
Do what you know you have to do.
Good luck

[SallyVating]

You gave it a go. Boot his arse out with a clear conscience.

You deserve so much more

[mumto2babyboys]

Shame he hasn't tried to change after saying he would. You are 100% entitled to feel let down

[Shoxfordian]

End it again and don't go back to him

[OliviaStabler]

Feeling very silly

What's done is done. You gave it another go and not one thing has changed. Don't be down on yourself, take the positive from the situation.

You can now split for good knowing you gave him every chance but this is who he is and he can't / won't change.

[pallasathena]

It's a new year roughly six weeks from now. Make it a good one OP and give yourself permission to be happy.
'Misery loves company', as my old gran used to say...stop being his 'company'. Let him find someone else to inflict his sad little life on.

[Thebluedog]

You’ve tried again and you can now walk away, 100% sure it’s the right thing to do.

[ChishandFips33]

This is not your failure, it's his.

You know the true reality now so it's time to move on and be happy again

[babbi]

What Monty and the others said ... don’t be made miserable...
Get out and live a happy life 😀

In your case with no regrets at all ... you have it a second chance so you dont have to think “what if “
Good luck ... and the happiest of New Years to you when it comes ....

[babygoose48]

He said you’re always poking him?

Another one who can’t take responsibility for his own attitude!

Don’t feel silly at least you know now. You’ll have no regrets at least wondering ‘what if’.

[pointythings]

You gave it everything. You gave him the chance to change his ways and he didn't. So now you can walk away, head held high, and start over. You deserve better.

[RandomMess]

"Sorry I "poke" you and make you miserable clearly it will never work, goodbye"

Then RUN!

[Cawfee]

Why did he beg for another chance if he wasn’t going to make some effort to change! Get rid and get your happy life back

[VanellopeVonSchweetz99]

Just shit timing for me as have booked quite a few things when we got back together

Timing is never good. You did the right thing, best of luck moving on.