In a nut shell i have found hard evidence of my partner of 16 years and 4 kids cheating on me throughout most of last year with at least 2 people. We have always had ups and downs and his drinking has played a major role in our fall outs, but i didn't think he would actually cheat on me. He had one of his drinking episodes tonight and left both his work and personal phone in his van, i honestly only got it out to call his workmate to see whwre the F he was with tea and happened to have a rifle. All seemed okay then i delved into a whatsapp message with this bloke he knows whome i have never every liked or trusted (amazing how gut feelings don't lie) basically bragging about a girl he had been shagging and saying all sorts of shit which to me was like reading nother persons conversation!! then theres this woman who lives by us, always told me he dislike her and shes always been funny with me - well well well found messengers on FB which details about him seeing her friend and how he was arranging to bring her round the house whilst i was out!!! these go back about 2 years, he always messaging her casually, nipping round there and everything , although theres no talk of them getting it on theres certainly alot of messages about condoms being XXL- really is news to my ears!! never knew a thing. He's certainly NOT the same person i though he was. Things make sense now - for instance i found a condom wrapper by the side of our bed which we have never had before - and he was accusing me (jokingly) of it, eurgh it makes me feel sick. I took pics of all the messages.
He came back at 3am banging the door and windows (live in a byngalow)threatening to smash the place in. I chucked him his phones and hes driven off in the van. Didnt mention the messages i had seen - until i got a whattsapp of him saing "I almost died today but who gives a fuck eh? "" so i casually sent about 14 screen shots of the messages i found and i managed to find the girl he was shagging on fb so a nice screenshot of that too went on. i then wrote come and get your bags tomorrow morning they will be on the doorstep followed by i never knew you where such good friends with alice and put a thumbs up
He seen the messages and i have not heard back since. That was at4.35am hes now off line. Only last week he was shouting and wearing telling me how much of a effin bitch i am etc etc
BUT next week the sale of our land is due to complete and yes i am taking my share and the kids and going to start up again without him. I finally feel strong and feel like the money will let me start again.
I am going through a rough time, our 13 yr old daughter had a liver transplant 5 weeks ago and now my dad is critically ill (stroke) and got to dash up to be supportive for my mum. It has been a very tough rough ride for me these past 6 months, my daughter is doing really good and i am hoping my dad can pull through. As for TOM he an go fuck himself!!! I don't care how self identifying this post is, i have NOTHING to feel ashamed about - he on the other end has. He won't have the joy and pleasure of living with us anymore, if he wants to act like a complete moron and fuck other woman and drink drive then so be it! He's clearly made his choice and had SO many chances.
ADIOS you complete waster!!!
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Feeling strong and ready for this, cheating partner foiled!!
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3rdbump · 10/08/2018 05:14
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