Hi I am looking for some outsider advice!
Me and my partner have been together for 8 years and have 2 children. We have been in a happy and normal partnership up until 2 years ago. OH started to use cocaine when he went out with his mates and dad. The first time he did it I knew straight away and went mad. Expressed how it made me feel and how it was wrong. It drastically spiralled from there. He started staying out all night, lie about his whereabouts and come home at 7/8 am. Every time I would go through the motions of how upset I was about it. He would be "ashamed" and make promises to never do it again. When I felt guilty of accusing him or believed his lies then I then started thinking he must be cheating on me. I expressed this and eventually had a breakdown. Following this breakdown he made promises again. But within the week was out all night again (lying again).
This has just continued even after numerous times of me stating that I will leave. I have now found out he has taken cocaine in the day whilst I'm at work. Whilst having to look after the kids. Then driving with them in the car whilst being coked up.
This has been the final straw for me! I will never trust him again ever! I have ended the relationship but he won't face the fact. He won't leave the house as he doesn't have a job and nowhere to go. In myself I want him to accept we are over and leave. But his guilt trips are getting to me. Making me feel like I should give him another chance. For the family's sake I should give him another chance apparently. But I am torn... Can anyone give any outside advice??
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melonmummy18 · 23/06/2018 21:40
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