Me and h are not getting on well at the moment. We have an uplanned 4th dc due in a couple of weeks. He blames me for getting pg (he didn't want another dc) and has not been communicating or supporting me much since we found out. He thinks I did it on purpose and says he feels trapped. None of which is true from my point of view. I asked him to get a vasectomy and he refuses, he said I should get sterilised, as it's good for women to reduce them getting ovarian cancer. wtf!?
H says he will never have sex with me again, as he never wants to be in that situation (unplanned pg) again. I felt so hurt and unwanted when he said that. I don't have a high sex drive anyway, but to never have sex again, sounds awful :(
He says he will be coming to the birth to 'support' me. I'm not sure how, as he has not supported me at all during the whole pregnancy and I told him I did not want him there. Am I allowed to refuse for him to attend? My mum has kindly offered to be my birthing partner, so I don't need him there.
I feel like my life is spiralling out of control. My h is emotionally dead and I feel like his mood is dragging me down. This cannot be good for the baby, I feel so guilty that all the stress is going to them :(
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Thisismydilemma · 18/06/2018 12:16
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