When you know you're being unreasonable and it's not a big deal, should you keep quiet or confide?

[ElizabethinherGermanGarden]

I'm not actually going to say anything about this because a) it's not a big deal and b) I'd be in the wrong but I'm pondering about whether it would be more open/healthy to say something (in a non ranty way) after the fact.

Yesterday, bf and his daughter came for dinner with my family. It was a really lovely evening and his daughter blossomed into confidence with my lot more than she ever has done - all great. We left together and bf drove me home and dropped me off at my house - v considerate.

Except that I almost always stay at his on Saturdays and he hasn't mentioned that he didn't want me to stay. It's Father's Day today and bf and his daughter want to spend the day together so I didn't have Sunday dinner with them, as I usually would.

If I had thought about it in advance properly, I would have thought 'what a lovely idea' and not been bothered. But I didn't - and he didn't say anything, so it was a surprise and a break in our normal routines (meaning that I see him half as much this week).

I know it's a non-issue - good dad spends Father's Day with lovely daughter; understanding girlfriend has plenty to get on with an isn't upset. But I'm writing this, which suggests I'm mildly bothered by the fact that he didn't tell me of the (perfectly reasonable) change to our normal routines.

So should I tell him that I minded a bit? Just for information and to be open with him? Or is it putting a load of nonsense out there that I've already squared in my head with no harm done and making an issue out of nothing? He's not much of a talker and I usually am.

[gamerchick]

I think I would let this one go. However him being not much of a talker is no excuse for thoughtlessness, you are not a mind reader. The next instance of this sort of assuming I would be having a chat about communication.

[ElizabethinherGermanGarden]

Thanks Gamer - you're right on all counts, probably. It's the communication thing I want to get sorted.