I have name changed for this. I’ll try to be brief and choose my words carefully, so apologies in advance.
My son’s father has financially supported school-aged ds whilst keeping him a secret in his life. He has always threatened dire consequences should the truth come out and change things for him. I have zero interest in bringing that about but he refuses to believe me.
For a while we have not lived near him but he has become increasingly controlling, coercive and abusive.
A few months ago I told him that I wanted to communicate only by text and only concerning ds. He did not want our frequent phone conversations and regular visits to stop, and escalated very
quickly into nasty verbal abuse and serious threats. This has happened before, and been reported a long time ago, but it’s getting more frequent and vicious.
I know now that I need to tell him that I want no contact with him at all and then block him and change my sim. This weekend, within a particular timeframe, some close friends can be with me to support me during the conversation.
However, the rules have always been that he contacts me when he is available to talk and I call him as soon as possible. His phone is switched off the rest of the time. We speak sometimes 5 times a week, sometimes once.
I can text him between calls if there is anything important. What can I text him that would make him call me at the right time?
I need your wise advice please mumsnetters, I don’t even know whether any of this is remotely rational.
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How can I manipulate him into calling?
easingtheSpring · 14/06/2018 01:34
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