Online dating

[wellthatsdifferent]

Name Change as im a bit embarrassed to be honest.

Had a few wines last night with one of my friends, trying to cheer myself up as DS is with his GPs for a few days. Confided to her that it does get quite lonely once DS goes to bed at night and due to lack of child free time thats not going to change anytime soon ....however I accept that.

A few wines later (bit of a sore head this morning not going to lie) Ive joined a dating site and paid for the privilege. What have I done!! My friends are telling to stick with it as you never know who I could meet and ive paid anyway. I on the other hand have visions of of everyone ive ever know finding out about this and thinking im sad, lonely and desperate.

So mumsnet, hit me with your sensible words, should I admit this is not for me and deactivate the account, which i am still trying to figure out how to do just that. OR are my friends right in telling me that there is no such stigma attached to OLD anymore and should I 'get over myself' and give it a try. .....Honestly the bit im most worried about is my xh finding out, he got with his now fiance quite within 2 months of us separating so he would use this as an angle to get cheap digs in.

[Squ1ggle]

It's not sad at all, its just modern life. I met my husband on eharmony 6.5 years ago, signing up was the best thing I ever did. I was selective in who I 'spoke' to and only physically met a few, I had a couple of lovely dates and a couple of not so great dates but never anything untoward, just no chemistry. And now, having been with my husband quite a while I have noticed that our opinions and approaches are very similar and so we rarely have disagreements. I suppose this is the proof of all of the sign up compatibility questions working.

[Squ1ggle]

Also I would never have met my husband in any other situation so for me it has worked out perfectly and I would recommend it. However! I would only recommend the sites that you pay a reasonable amount for as they tend to be more used by those who actually want to find a relationship rather than just a hook up like tinder etc. If course that's not to say you won't come across some idiots but they're relatively easy to ignore and block

[purplelass]

I met my lovely fella on pof 2 years ago!

Just be honest without giving too much away and chat for ages before meeting up to check there's rapport there and he's not just up for an easy lay.

Good luck!

[userabcname]

Go for it! Met my husband on POF 6 years ago, been married a year and have a baby!

[LottieandSeth]

Good luck ! I met my DH online 9 years ago - married nearly 2 years now. Funny thing is he lived about a mile away but I doubt I'd have met him without online dating !

[Ickyockycocky]

I met DH with online dating, I thoroughly recommend it. I also have several friends and family who've met online. There's really nothing wrong with it. Just stick to a few very important rules and away you go.

[IfeelFloopy]

There is honestly no such stigma attached to online dating any more. There used to be but I don’t know anyone who’s been single for a while who hasn’t tried it. I don’t know why you’d be embarrassed about it. Yes the majority probably won’t be to your taste but I’ve met some lovely guys this way, and now I’m engaged to one of them!

The more things you try, the more chance you have of meeting someone and this is just one of them