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Dating woes

(16 Posts)
NeedHelp1002 Sat 02-Dec-17 18:23:48

Hi guys
Started dating new guy and worried he is a little different in background...
think public school from prep school age, privileged background, father used to own and train racehorses, now into land, he is in respectable profession and so are his siblings
I'm in similar profession but background very different (think me from second generation immigrant and him typical English)... just wondered what I can expect from this guy...
I know it's hard to speculate as I know him but want to prepare myself.

AFistfulOfDolores Sat 02-Dec-17 18:28:44

How about you go into this without any preconceived ideas at all? No-one on a thread can tell you what he's like anyway - but if you start to get to know him, you'll have first-hand knowledge.

JollyGiraffe Sat 02-Dec-17 18:30:18

What Fistful said!

He's not an alien grin

category12 Sat 02-Dec-17 18:42:08

Sounds like an alien to me grin.

nibora Sat 02-Dec-17 18:53:46

Sounds like Henry to me, is that you Gemma?

Just close your mouth when you eat occasionally, it'll be fine.

Wherearemymarbles Sat 02-Dec-17 19:09:08

To quote an old saying

A man can marry beneath him. A woman never should....

Dont overthink it!!!

rightknockered Sat 02-Dec-17 19:41:54

Is this Meg? Tell Willy smarten up and shave more often

NeedHelp1002 Sat 02-Dec-17 20:50:16

Really don't understand the responses! This is a genuine question seriously

I wouldn't consider myself to be beneath him! I'm not trying to generalise either... he is actually rather cool... just being paranoid I guess really want to get on with him

debbs77 Sat 02-Dec-17 22:18:16

I met someone like that and it made me feel really uncomfortable.

Though he did recently buy a house close to me that is the same style as maybe he wasn't so well off after all!

Donatello68 Sun 03-Dec-17 00:14:47

Your different backgrounds shouldn’t be an issue. It is more to do with whether have things in common and enjoy spending time together. Just be yourself...

OliviaStabler Sun 03-Dec-17 00:18:38

It clearly doesn't bother him so I would not let it bother you. Have fun and see where it leads!

Beentherelefthimgotthetshirt Sun 03-Dec-17 00:35:27

He's not judging you so why judge yourself?

In terms of dating his background is irrelevant. A cheat and a liar is a cheat and a liar whether he's landed gentry or a labourer. A good man is a good man irrespective of social standing.

Just enjoy it.

Cleavergreene Sun 03-Dec-17 00:46:00

This is strange because, I Started dating this new lady and I’m worried shes is a little different in background...
think government school. Mixed sexes. Mum and dad just ordinary jobs. Immigrant background. She is in respectable profession and so are her siblings.
I'm in similar profession but background very different (public school. Mummy and daddy wealthy. Own horses .... you get the idea)... just wondered what I can expect from this lovely lady..
I know it's hard to speculate as I know her but want to prepare myself.

CandleLit Sun 03-Dec-17 01:06:36

Cleavergreene grin

everyone is telling you not to sweat it and enjoy!

NeedHelp1002 Sun 03-Dec-17 06:42:11

Hahaha Cleavergreene

I am enjoying it! I'm not mixed at all... honestly this is a true story and the reason I ask is because I was hoping to hear stories from people in similar situations and how it turned out for them.

RainyApril Sun 03-Dec-17 06:52:15

Op, it's a daft question because the background he was born into doesn't define him and there'll be more similarities between you than differences. If someone from a wealthy background posted concerns about dating a poor person, everyone would quite rightly call them a snob.

My dc all went to private school, two are still there, one at university, one in a profession now. Over the years they have dated people from similar backgrounds, and people who are different. It wouldn't occur to them to care, and it wouldn't occur to me.

It doesn't sound like it matters to him, and it shouldn't matter to you, just enjoy it.

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