Right, I have an issue, I need some advice from people that have or are currently going through the same type of experience.
I don't need to be told what's right and wants wrong when I already know it. I don't want people jumping down my throat saying things like "get over it" or "your relationship will never work". I already know that my obsessive thoughts are not normal. I am on the waiting list for high intensity CBT, that are classed as an OCD. Before I get into the subject I want you to be aware that my thoughts are INVOLUNTARY, I am the sufferer not anybody else. I've self harmed in the past due to my own head. Before you go and comment something that isn't helpful, do some research into what I go through on a daily basis before judging.
Ok so now that's out the way I can get into my issue...
Basically I suffer with negative involuntary thoughts around my relationship, obsessively. To the point we're I've lost my life due to my own head. I'm on the waiting list as I've mentioned but that doesn't help the fact that my DP works do is approaching and I feel sick, genuinely physically sick to my stomach. Yes my partner knows about my thoughts and is willing to stick by me through my help but I don't tell him my thoughts, I just say something like "I'm having a bad day" and he knows what I mean. My thoughts flutter around insecurities with other women. So yes his works do is approaching and I've been informed that he's going for a meal and then to a club... I feel sick even typing it out and thinking about it. How do I manage to handle this but at the same time grit my teeth and just pretend I'm ok? I'm not. My help can't come quick enough. I can't wait to be free of my own mind. The CBT isn't starting until around Jan/Feb so I have to cope with this in some way. I have thoughts and images in my head of him glaring at other women, his work mates are very pervy, Jack the lad type people and point out an attractive women everywhere they go which doesn't help 😢. I don't want to go into to much detail because honestly?, I'm ashamed. I'm really sorry this is long but and I hope some of you have some words of support...
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Leo07 · 18/11/2017 14:10
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