V long and tedious story short:
20 years married
4 kids
I became aware of an affair 2+ years ago, we had counselling.
Now new affair, 'means more', we have decided to split.
There is no way I can ever be in a relationship with him again.
BUT - he is dragging his heels wrt sorting our affairs: 23 years of joint mortgages, huge outstanding debt, finances totally intermingled.
My priority are my children, I am coping just fine (did all my fury and grieving for the relationship I thought I had when I found out about the first affair), I want him well out of my financial life.
He's doing nothing, nought, zilch, like finding out what his pension status is etc, and I cannot do it for him (because I would, just to ge rid).
So, what: lawyer?? Mediation?
I'd've thought seeing that he is apparently happily involved in his new relationship he'd want to move on?
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How to move separation along? Heart-broken, but also frustrated
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PerfectlyDone · 12/11/2017 08:59
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