Married 20 years with dc, youngest 12 eldest 20. DH says there is an emotional reason why he doesn't love me on the same way as he did, but in many ways he still does.
Feels that we are more like friends now and so we sometimes hold hands, cuddle, peck and we have a laugh, successfully co-parent etc.
He's a nice person, great dad, pretty helpful and tidy so no real issues there either. He's very hardworking as I am and we both work, keep fit and are in good health.
I sometimes yearn for passion and I fantasize about it alot. He admits he's just not that sexual and to be truthful he never was even when younger.
I am in my 50s now and am mostly happy with my lot, have a beautiful home, children doing well and I really have nothing else to complain about but this and the fact he doesn't recognise or feel that I support him emotionally even though I feel and know I do.
We have just started having counseling with Relate as he knows I am unhappy with our relationship and is willing to try.
But fundamentally he withdraws from perceived criticism and I think after his 1 to 1 session with the counselor last week he has withdrawn from me even more.
Does counseling make things worse? Admittedly it's early days and my 1 to 1 is this week.
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What should I do? Male perspective needed please.
Leafytwig · 12/11/2017 06:11
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