Hi everyone!
Long one lurker here and just looking for some thoughts. Hope this is the right place to post!
My mother has a tendency to say inappropriate and careless comments. She's got worse recently (she isn't elderly) and seems to operate on a stream of consciousness basis, literally just says whatever she thinks without filtering anything. I was out with her today and she said some of the most horrendous things and it has left me wondering if I really know my mother at all. Her comments were much more callous than usual. To cut a long story short my brother had a baby with a woman, they separated and he doesn't see the baby. She lives in Denmark now. My mother has never seen the baby nor does she appear interested to do so. I happened to bring it up today and she said the following:
"That woman knew what she was doing, trying to ensnare him with a child. In this day and age no one is forced to have one."
"She has plenty of family to help her anyway. Why does she need him (my brother) to go over?"
"She probably thought having a child would keep him there and she could get his money."
AIBU in thinking these comments were disgusting? She was basically saying she should have got rid of the kid! I tend to take the things she says with a pinch of salt as mostly they are said without thought but these comments seemed the real deal. She is very close to my brother and tends to take a dislike to any female he is involved with. The sad thing to me is that she has no interest in forging any relationship with the grandchild due to the association with the mother. I think that's...well, a bit fucked up?!
I have been left feeling a bit upset tonight, wondering how she has ended up being so cruel about everything. She herself was a single mother with 3 young children once upon a time which makes it even more bizarre.
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Really shocked at my mother's comments....
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user1498244291 · 11/11/2017 20:17
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