I have just been reading another discussion. A poster (I wont name) posted she used to be violent to her dh. Strangling him. She had been in abusive relationships before him and this was the source of her violence. She got help and medication and her and dh are ok now. It reminded me of my ex wife, shed had a trouble upbringing and abusive relationships since she was a teenager. She was a handful, physically and mentally abusive, manipulative and ultimately walked out on me and the kids.
I am over her and see a bright future ahead without her. In fact things are going well. But this post made me feel guilty again, like I failed her. People have told me before its stupid because she was so shit to me. But this post reminded me the world is not black and white. I was the only one who never abused her, loved her and was good to her. I know a lot of why she was a dick was probably to do with her horrible past. It made me feel like I let her down again. She is back with her step cousin that abused her as a teenager. She is not my problem any more and I don't want her to be. But I still cant feel I failed her as a husband. Maybe if I could have got her some help? Its a guilt I cant shake.
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1DAD2KIDS · 10/11/2017 17:10
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