AIBU to cancel this meal?

[user7680]

So H got drunk as usual last night and called me some names in front of dd which I am not happy about. It’s his birthday today and I’ve booked a table elsewhere. AIBU to cancel this as he will get drunk again and disrespect me again in front of my daughter when I am paying??

[Smarshian]

You should not allow him to treat you that way full stop. Especially not in front of your dd.

LTB!

[Ruddygreattiger2016]

Cancel and seriously consider ltb

[user7680]

Thanks for replies xx

[ptumbi]

drunk as usual???? Namecalling?

Cancel every meal from now on.

[MadMags]

Cancel the relationship.

Drunk as usual? Calling you names? All in front of your child??

[BluePheasant]

Cancel the meal? Sounds like you need to cancel the marriage. Why was he calling you names?

[user7680]

@BluePheasant ...he told me to take dd out for treat or trick next week and I said no as am happy taking her dancing,swimming etc but not that and I suggested he takes her instead if he wants as its not my thing to be knocking on people’s doorsteps. Then he called me a lazy cunt. I’ve ripped off his birthday card as it says everything he’s not. DD is excited about the meal that’s why I posted here for help otherwise I’ve considered LTB after my degree.

[TheStoic]

Take your daughter, then. Your husband is worse than a waste of space.

[LIZS]

How vile. Go out without him.

[abbsisspartacus]

Why are you with him you are worth more than this

[Ruddygreattiger2016]

Take dd out somewhere else and have a great time, leave him home with his hangover.
Disgusting calling you that in front of dd and good on you for leaving him. He sounds an utter prick.

[usersos]

I’d do the lunch for the sake of the kids making it very clear to him that’s why you’re doing it. I’d have a lovely lunch, push the boat out then later on today tell him to get the fuck out of the house as you deserve more than this! X

[ptumbi]

OR - tell him to take your dd out for his birthday meal, but you are not celebrating it or going with him.

He will call you all the names under the sun, as he wouldn't (shouldn't) get drunk with his dd there. But he couldn't accuse you of 'taking his dd away' from him.

And then LTB,

How old is she?

[user7680]

@ptumbi 4

[ptumbi]

So hopefully he wouldn't get drunk in her presence? Or call her names?

Why is it ok for him to do it to you?

(It isnt!)

No one who called me names, drunk or sober, would not see me again.

[OuchLegoHurts]

Your poor poor daughter. This is going to damage her you know?

[WiccanWonder]

Cancel the relationship. Keep the table for you and DD :)