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Am I over reacting?

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Newwoman2017 · 22/10/2017 16:46

I'm feeling a bit cross & upset with my husband. I feel very taken for granted, he's always watching tv or on his phone. I often suggest in the evening a bit of nooky but he nearly always responds with at bedtime I'm watching this. He is a late owl normally bedtime for him is after midnight. I get up most days at 6.30 to organise the kids so by about 10.30 I'm done & either fall asleep on sofa or go to bed. I often stir when he comes to bed so we do manager get nooky but it's not always ideal. Our morning routine has changed as my son has just started at comprehensive so in the morning there is no chance.

I always try to do thoughtful things and get my husband's favourite cider in or sweets and crisps but he never does the same for me. I have tried talking to him but it seems to fall on deaf ears.

What do your husband's do to make you feel special?

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Ellisandra · 22/10/2017 16:56

A great way for someone to show love is to get up early enough in the morning so that their spouse isn't left with all the getting kids ready shit that leaves them tired.
If work prevents that, a spouse can do things like get lunches and bags ready the night before.
Why doesn't he do some of the mornings?

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Newwoman2017 · 22/10/2017 18:04

He stays in bed with a nice coffee! 😂

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Blanca87 · 22/10/2017 18:05

What Ellisandra said.

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Newwoman2017 · 22/10/2017 18:20

On a serious note I don't know What to do.. A year ago I was really stressed as I had two part time jobs and my husband does man chores but does not help with household chores. I gave up one of the jobs which makes life less stressful for me as I have more time. However the stress and low mood is rearing it's ugly head again because of feeling so unappreciated.

We don't do enough as a family my husband is happy to watch tv all day on a Saturday while the kids entertain themselves in their bedrooms.
Today we did go for a family walk which was supposed to be nice but ended with a massive row because my husband started telling me & the kids off for calling the puppy. I had a go back because he wasn't calling her and she was bothering another dog. The row escalated so quickly that I just think there must be a problem with us. Thus has happened a few times recently where a silly disagreement has turned into a full on row.