Not sure what to do
My partner has recently moved onto days from working night shifts and his behavior has started to change he wants to eat healthy go jogging lose weight which is great. However he wants to jog with a female friend from work as she feels uncomfortable on her own. This woman he texts constantly sometimes till 2am in the morning they share rather personal stuff and he leans on her emotionally. They had a great laugh at my expense over me thinking he was emotionally cheating apparently he had to tell her all about it as i was damaging her reputation. She often gives him lifts home and they chat outside for up to an hour. Ive told him i am uncomfortable with there friendship outside of work. He thinks im being paranoid says there's nothing going on and that if i have a problem i should just leave
We ended up in a massive argument over it. Told me he cant and wont choose between us but he will make an effort to go out less with her he says they always jog with other people.. hes never jogged in his life and there out for like four hours
being slightly paranoid i checked his discord and found a lot of flirty messages with a online friend he has known for over five years. telling her he wishes he was in bed with her. that he bets shes really sexy under her clothes etc etc. she only ever responds with emoticons there on voice chat for hours all the time
confronted him about it a lot of crying and groveling apparently he leans on the friend from work as i never listen to him im dismissive and he needs someone to talk to his sister and partner moved in while relocating and it has gone very badly. The online flirting he says is because he always thought i was cheating on him and that our son wasn't his and it made him feel good!! it was all just banter and a joke
we have been together 12 years since we were at school we have one child together i feel so betrayed like our whole relationship was built on a lie.
we have had some rough patches regarding my controlling behavior with finances etc but Ive been to counseling and things have greatly improved we seemed to be very happy and things were going so well
Not sure what to expect or what to advice to ask. unsure if i should leave or try to work through the problems. I don't think hes ever cheated on me and i do feel partly to blame i love him so much
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ecjamielee · 21/10/2017 20:42
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