Hello, my name is Andy and I am an unfaithful husband. My wife and I have been trying to recover from my mistakes, but the going has been rough. I've done a terrible job throughout this whole process. I didn't confess to her. I allowed the truth to trickle out instead of bringing it to her myself. As a result, she does not believe me about some things, even though I have no more truths to tell.
But that's not my reason for contacting you. The reason is, there is one thing that I haven't been able to do for her and I need help doing it. It sounds so simple when I put it on paper, but it's not so simple when it really comes time to do it. My wife tells me that she needs me to bring the affair up in conversation myself on a regular basis. Almost all of the conversations we've had about the affair have been initiated by her and she feels that I want to just sweep everything under the rug and pretend it didn't happen. This isn't true, but I can understand why she would think that way.
It should be easy, but I just don't know how to physically do it. Every time I try, it feels like the wrong time. If she's having a good day, I don't want to ruin that. If she's having a bad day, I don't want to make it worse. How do I initiate a conversation about the affair when I have no more new information to give her?
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AJChester · 15/10/2017 15:49
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