Advice please.
I’m currently at a loss of what to do in this situation.
A friend of mine has recently left her husband of 12 years. Before she asked him to leave the family home, she started an affair with a younger guy who she works with. I asked her outright if she was having an affair and she admitted it. This guy also had a gf of 4 years. I begged her to end the affair as I said that I didn’t think it would end well at all. She was seeing this guy while husband was at work, even to the point of bringing him home during the day while her husband was out and sneaking out of work with him at night.
Well, her husband found out about it and she asked him to leave. The guy she was seeing ended his relationship with his gf about a month later. All the while, they were still seeing each other.
They have now been together for about a month. She has him over the house pretty much every day and has already introduced him to her 2 children. I’m worried that the children are suffering. I’ve told her that I think this is far too soon but she just says whatever. Her oldest son has started pulling out his hair because of the situation.
She shows no guilt over having hurt the other girl in this situation, or her husband. Simply saying that they probably deserved it. She’s not the same person as she was before, she’s become very selfish.
It’s making me so sad because I’m finding it very hard to be around her right now. She’s not the same friend that I once had and I find the fact that she was willing to hurt so many people hard to deal with.
I’ve told her I need some space from the friendship but what do you think I should do future wise?
I’m not sure that I want a friend who can so easily hurt so many people and not care about it or feel remorse. AIBU??
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Advice about friendship please. Don't know what to do.
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Lilmissgen · 07/10/2017 15:46
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