Sorry, it's a long one.
I'm in my 30s but since I was a teenager my DM's had a habit of telling me hurtful things my DF has said about me.
One actual example, when I was about 16 was, "don't tell your Dad I told you, but he says you're so fat that he's worried you'll never get a boyfriend." I'd get upset, confront DF and there'd be an argument.
Today I got really angry and kind of regret it. Out of the blue my DM said my DF isn't happy. When I asked why she got all flustered and started rambling that it's because I earn more than my DP. I was annoyed but changed the subject.
My DF and DM have always been nice to DP and there have been no issues between them. I've been with my DP for five years and we're TTC at the moment. Yes, there's a gap in our salaries due to my profession. But I couldn't care less.
I spoke to DF who said his words have been twisted. Later on, my DM apologised over the phone. I asked her why she tells me these things. She said she doesn't know. I'm not proud to say that I lost my temper and raised my voice.
Now, this may sound harsh but I know my parents can sometimes be a bit...judgmental AND two-faced AND stuck-up. So, it's likely that my DF did say something like that. Frankly, my relationship has nothing to do with them.
What hurts me is, why does she tell me? What does she gain from it? She always sounds so apologetic afterwards.
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ReturnOfTheCaramac · 06/10/2017 21:03
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