I have a platonic, male friend who has until now seemed nice. We tend to go out for dinner together, just the two of us, every now and then - maybe once a month. We text several times a week.
I happen to know that he is in a long distance relationship that has been going on for at least 7 or 8 years. The strange thing is he avoids ever admitting to me that he is in a relationship. He recently went to America, to visit his partner. I knew he was visiting his partner because a friend told me. But when I asked him what he had planned for his trip to America he lied and pretended he was going there just to hang out with friends and that he was staying in a hotel. Even while there in America with his partner, he kept texting me. Sometimes he'll send a text at midnight saying something like "was just thinking about you."
He simply will not admit to me that he's in a relationship. He has loads of other platonic female friends (and I am friends with some of them as well) and he is open about his relationship to them. I've also noticed other furtive behaviour from him. He constantly openly likes and comments on Facebook posts from his female platonic friends. But with me he would never so much as click 'like' on any photo or update I post. Instead he keeps sending private messages like "Love your new profile pic" or "Loving your smile in your new post."
It's all started to really irritate me recently, his furtive behaviour. Why can't he publicly acknowledge that we are platonic friends? It's not like he's cheating on his partner just by being friends with me. But he's behaving almost as if we are having some sort of affair.
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Transcendence · 20/09/2017 14:05
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