Am I going mad here?
Will try to keep this not too long, had agreed with oh he would have baby overnight alone for the first time this weekend. We are together but I haven't slept in so long and needed a break so I was to stay somewhere else for the night to finally get some sleep. It didn't work and he dropped baby to me late that night. We had agreed he wouldn't drink that night while having the baby, he usually drinks quite a bit at home at the weekend. I was worried he wouldn't wake if she was stirring or he would have her in the bed and it not be safe, many reasons and I didn't think it was strange to say don't drink while having her alone overnight for first time.
Anyway I got home the next day and found 3 large beer bottles empty, spoke to him and he said he had only drank one, the other two he drank the night before (I'd stayed away that night with the baby) I believed him, was annoyed he'd drunk despite us agreeing he wouldn't but didn't want to argue at that point. I then found a receipt for different beers from the night before and therefore knew these beers were from the day with the baby. So confronted him again and he carried on the lie to my face until I said I know it isn't true, he admitted yes he went and got the beers with the baby but only drank one and drank the other 2 after dropping baby to me. I'm fairly sure this is true but is beside the point. He's now saying he lied as he wanted " a beer" and knew I wouldn't agree.
Now am I going mad or is this a real problem? I know he likes a drink but I feel when you're lying about it and are not able to face no alcohol for one night while being the sole carer for your baby then that's a problem that needs addressing? He reckons this about me being controlling and that's why he didn't want to admit he would have a beer.
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He has a problem or is it me?
Annaskies · 19/09/2017 17:34
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