I've just joined mums net and just want other mums to chat to.
I have a toddler and have developed my own business part time. I love developing my business as its my hobby and I get a lot out of it, I love being a mum, I feel this is what I was destined to be.
I have a small group of friends and I'm the first in my group to have a baby, I find this isolating as I just don't think they get me anymore, I feel uncomfortable talking about my son as I feel they're just not interested.
A I the boring one now that can't go out drinking or just turn up at a last minute cinema trip.i've moved 40 minutes drive from them too. To me its not that far and I drive up and down all the time.But I think they've probably come down to me 4 times in the last 3 years. I always have to go up there with son with me or dropping him off with family so I can se my friends.
One of my friends in the group I'm closer to has come down a few more times snd made the effort and we talk a lot more than the others, but I feel one by one my friends are becoming distant. The closer friend was really annoyed at me recently because I was 20 minutes late for a meet up which is understandable but that morning I dropped my son at nursery, worked on my business stuff, picked my son up, got petrol, stopped off for a loo break on the way, changed my son as he had a leak. I think I did pretty well to get there considering the morning I had. When she confronted me and said I was wasting up her time it just made me feel shit. Do all my friends feel like this about me?, is that why they are becoming distant? do they understand that its hard work to get me and my son ready to then drive 40 minutes up to meet them, so sometime I maybe 10 minutes late, its understandable right? I've really tried the past year to be on time for everything and theres been 3 occasions where I've been slightly late. Should I just drop my group of friends completely and start looking for completely new mum friends, just so I can stop feeling guilty for being a mum and not being able to do certain things and not worry what they think of me if I'm a bit late now and again!
I've tried making friends in baby groups, but apart from hellos and brief chats I don't know what to do or feel like I'll be forcing my contact details on them! it's like doing all over again! lol. I have one baby friend thats near me who's lovely, but would love to meet more.
Since my friend confronted me yesterday I've just felt so down on myself, and feel I really have no friends to confide in or 'get me ' anymore. Any one going through something similar?
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elizarose81 · 19/08/2017 08:54
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