Hi,
I've posted previously about an abusive relationship and what's come after no contact.
I've said I'm not ready for anything with anyone new. That was until I started messaging my new "friend" we'll call him A.
A and I have known each other a while, when things were ending with my ex he was flirtatious with me but I made it clear nothing would happen as I was not in the right place. He started messaging me again recently and I've realised I like him. However, A seems to be more for a no strings attached type thing.
As I like him, I've told him no strings attached will not be happening, because I could end up having feelings for him. He accepted this but hasn't stopped messaging (I haven't stopped messaging him either). Sometimes the messages become very sexual and I have to remind him to stop. Which he does, I can't help but wonder if he may want something more or just sex, based on these times and that he's still talking to me.
I catch him watching me sometimes (we haven't met up but frequent similar places) and I find myself looking for him. This is also confusing to me. He gives me butterflies and it's nice.
The main issue I have is sometimes he makes jokes, about rape or abortion. I can't describe these as light jokes because I find them abominable, in any regard. I know he's joking, but to me this is a huge turn off. Yet for some reason I can't tell him this.
Am I overthinking this, or does that mean I'm not ready to date? If I can't set my boundaries on something that seems so minor? Or maybe I am as I can set my boundaries around sex?
Sorry it's so long, can anyone help me make sense of my jumbled thoughts?
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Outedlasttimenamechangeagain · 19/08/2017 00:30
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