An ex has contacted me, asking to verify some things that happened when we were together. We went out for 2 years whilst I was 15-17 and he was 17-19 (so approx 30 years ago!)
He is asking about a specific incident, in which his dad chased me, him and his sister with his gun, because he disapproved of the sisters boyfriend. We escaped by car and other traffic meant he had to lower the gun.
His dad is saying this never happened and that my ex is crazy. Sister is backing up dad.
My memory isn't great and I can't remember details e.g. I wasn't sure if the gun was fired/what proceeded the gun getting. But, I have no doubt it happened.
It's part of a bigger picture in which ex is trying to get over abuse. And his family are saying the abuse never happened/he is crazy.
Again, my memory isn't great but I WOULD describe his dad as abusive. He was unkindvto ex and verbally abusive, but I can't recall examples. He said he hit him at the time but I don't think he witnessed it. He had multiple affairs with younger women which he told ex about, whilst they were happening. Remember this was all before he was 18. I THINK they were both sleeping with the same girl/woman at 1 point. We had free access to his porn films.
My apprehension is because ex says his dad has encouraged the mother of his child to prevent contact...has told her, he is crazy and no abuse happened.
He has asked if I will write a statement about the gun incident, as he is going to court to try and reestablish contact with his child. AND to prevent his dad from having unsupervised contact with the child
BUT, presumably his behaviour is what has caused her to stop contact actually. I know women don't stop contact with kids for no good reason. And I don't want to add to that woman's stress
I'm not sure what to do for the best?
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Screamingmonkeys · 17/08/2017 17:51
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