Crossroads

[MidlifeZzzzz]

20 years, 2 DDs, married, house, cars blah blah. He works away Mon-Fri, paid well for this, I work part time, paid crap but hours suit.
Without drip feeding, DH has history of messaging, sexting, meet up sites etc. We split briefly in 2015 but I felt the time was wrong, DDs only young and didn't cope well.
Fast forward two years and we are in a crap place. Growing resentment on both sides, he clearly resents my working part time and him apparently 'paying for everything' (I pay the mortgage), me resenting zero child free time apart from working, doesn't feel as if we have a relationship, stuck in the house every evening etc.
Yesterday evening we were out with friends (with children) and got onto the subject of him working away. He was asked if he minded to which he replied no and gave no 'cons' to doing it. This made me upset, and, unlike me, I became a bit tearful and went off to the loos. The night continued and we went home early as he looked fuming. Once home he asked why I had ruined the night 'putting the waterworks on'.

This morning he says he's fed up of my ungratefulness, we have a holiday booked for 8 weeks and he has said to cancel it and he will move out.

So after my rather long post, my reason for posting - this isn't me being an ungrateful bitch is it? I'm not missing something am I ? I feel like this person appears every Friday but is becoming more and more distant, so surely I should grab the carrot being dangled and go for it ?

Apologies if rambling, my head is a bit of a mess.

[AnyFucker]

You lost me at "history of sexting, meet up sites etc"

Why the hell have you been clinging on to this substandard individual ?

Let him go and find your self respect where you buried it.

[TwitterQueen1]

No of course you're not an ungrateful bitch.

It sounds like the two of you have come to the end though. He's clearly not committed to the relationship in any way and sees you as an encumbrance rather than a partner.

[MidlifeZzzzz]

Thank you, THAT is just the sort of thing I need to hear. Self respect not quite gone, but sometimes questionable if I've completely lost my fucking mind. Life just doesn't turn out how you expect does it.

[Minime85]

Don't cancel the holiday go without him!

[TheNaze73]

This isn't a crossroads as there is no going forward. You'll both be far happier going your separate ways

[Want2beme]

OP Life just doesn't turn out how you expect does it. No, not always, but change is a good thing. I think, as I did, you've already realised that you've come to the end of your relationship. Eventually, you'll be happier living without him.

[whatsmyname2017]

You are NOT ungrateful. It amazes me why men think that part-time working means you are not an equal. You are providing the childcare as well as paying the mortgage, that is YOUR contribution to the household.
Of course he doesn't mind working away. He clearly enjoys having time away by himself away from the stresses of children and family life. I know men who work away offshore and hate being away from family for such long periods - THAT is how he should be feeling.
This should tell you everything you need to know.
If he has been cheating on you (sexting or not), he should be going out of his way to make it up to you, not treating you like this.