Hello. Hoping for some advice. I've finally managed, after years of abuse, to leave my husband. Not the first time I've told him it's over but I want it to be the last.
I've got support from the local domestic abuse charity and been to the police to report physical and sexual assaults going back to 2013 plus almost daily mental and emotional abuse. There was also financial abuse with him refusing to pay half of he essential outgoings etc.
In some ways I'm so happy to be free of him and be able to come home without fear any more. But I'm also really struggling as he was the love of my life for a long time before his behaviour changed. I stayed hoping that original man would reappear (and because he would always behave better after a flare up) but have had to leave as I couldn't cope any more. I'm just so lonely now though and scared about the future. I can't really afford to be on my own so might need a lodger but am nervous around people I don't know well after what's happened. I'm also late 30s and desperately wanted children which I now feel is unlikely.
A lot of our friends are mutual ones and quite a few are saying things like 'can't you work it out' which really isn't helping. He seems so lovely to be outside world so I don't really want to start trying to explain the details to people who I don't think would believe me anyway. The first two good friends I confided in didn't take it well. One said I must be imagining it as he wouldn't do things like that. I know in some ways these people aren't friends worth having but I just feel like my life is at rock bottom. How do I pick myself up again? I'm not eating or sleeping and really struggling to function.
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Freeofhim · 05/06/2017 18:07
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