DD has been in a relationship for over 3 years..together at Uni but for the last year apart due to jobs... travelling at weekends to see eachother.
Relationship up and down the last 6 months.. she was doing all the travelling (train as neither have cars) while her dp sat on his playstation as far as I can tell. She became close to a work colleague and realised she was heading into dangerous EA territory... so pulled back and also gave dp an ultimatum.. needed him to be there more .
To everyone's surprise he stepped up. But she is conflicted... she is still attracted to her colleague, but doesn't want to hurt anyone. Her DP is clinging on, and understandably hurt and terrified of losing her and the family connections he has with us.
DD is a mess. She knows she is not 100% there for her dp, but desperately doesn't want to hurt him, is still attracted to her colleague (who is single and obviously attracted to her) and she is so confused.
She always confides in me and relies on my 'words of wisdom' and frankly having been in the same situation at the same age..early 20s... I don't envy her. It killed my relationship dead.
Personally I think that when you have lost whatever the thing was that bound you together in the first place (at this age and with no kids or responsibilties) then it's probably best to be brave... call it quits and take some time to find out what SHE needs and wants , but she is genuinely terrified for her DP's mental health if she breaks it off with him. He is a nice guy and I feel for him, but he is being relentless..questioning her every move and thought, and she is a mental wreck.
BTW before anyone accuses me of being interfering/over involved... she has asked my advice and I really don't know what to say!
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What would you advise? (DD in relationship crisis)
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StillMedusa · 01/06/2017 00:38
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