Me and DP have been together for a year, in a LDR and see each other every month or around that. When we are together life is perfect, we're happy and in love and spend the most lovely few days together each time. A few issues this weekend came to a head, also on his birthday which has resulted in him this morning saying he doesn't think we are working anymore and hasn't for a long time. I've asked him to have a think first about what his next move will be because if it is to break up, we will cut all contact (my decision). Our major disagreements are as follows:
-Dates and times to see each other are not as important to him as they are to me. I wanted to be with him on our anniversary, he's booked to go to a concert despite knowing the date. He cancelled another stay together that was booked and paid for to go to the pub with his best friend to watch the football (I felt so bad as apparently his friend wouldn't go out without him that day so said it was okay). And an issue with an AIBU about the football yesterday which I admit I was.
-We talk pretty much all day every day! Which works for us. But we've both said today we didn't need to talk as much as we are going around in circles and it's making us resent each other.
-Nobody knows about us. It's a joint decision as with us being LDR we wanted to be sure we'd be together long term and get to around this point. But lying to people and sneaking away isn't great.
If anyone has seen 500 Days of Summer I literally feel like Tom right now! I'm the one that believes in love and happy endings and being together and he's created this unhappiness from nothing yesterday. On his birthday too. We've spent all morning talking, crying, going over it. And he's promised to think about things but I feel like he's already checked out.
Does anyone know what I should do now? Just not message him until he gets in touch? I don't want to keep texting when he's out with his friends today as that's not fair. I don't want him to be upset again. Yesterday morning he was so excited that it was his birthday and telling me how much he loves me, and by the night he was wanting to break up. Struggling to make sense of it all :(
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BlueNeighbourhood · 28/05/2017 15:30
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